My name is___ (name has been edited out) and I’m 20 year’s old and alhamdulillah i pray 5 times a day but i still slip up watching filthy video’s online then i repent and fall back again I’m really in worst stiuation right know and cannot find any content how to stop it sincerely however i fear i might slip away from deen please give me some tips so that i can stead fast on right path.
بسم الله الرحمٰن الرحيم
الجواب حامداً ومصلياً
As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-raḥmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
May Allāh Taʿālā reward you for your concern in maintaining your dīn. May He reward you fro being consistent in prayer. He ﷻ says:
فَمَن زُحْزِحَ عَنِ النَّارِ وَأُدْخِلَ الْجَنَّةَ فَقَدْ فَازَ (سورة آل عمران: ١٨٥)
“Whoever is kept away from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have triumphed.” (3:185)
The fact that you are concerned that you will lose your dīn is a sign of your īmān. Once, a group of Ṣaḥābah came to Rasūlullāh ﷺ and confided that at times, thoughts come to them regarding dīn that they are afraid to express. Rasūlullāh ﷺ asked if these thoughts worry them. They responded that they do. At this point, Rasūlullāh ﷺ exclaimed, “This is true īmān!” This is because worrying about your faith is a sign that you have it in the first place and value it greatly. Do not despair in the mercy of Allāh.
قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (سورة الزمر: ٥٣)
“Say: My servants who have harmed yourselves by your own excess, do not despair of Allāh’s mercy. Allāh forgives all sins: He is truly the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” (39:53)
There is no doubt that pornography addiction is a pandemic affecting people, male and female, from all races and religions. It is a great fitnah of our time. Marriages have fallen apart due to spouses not being able to break this vice that afflicted them before marriage. It is a complex issue because it is not as simple as controlling the gaze. Rather, it an addiction which changes the way a person’s mind functions.
For general advice about how to deal with this issue, please see the following resources.:
- This previous answer: https://www.tawheedcenter.org/question/video/
- Khuṭbah about pornography addiction: https://soundcloud.com/muftiwahaaj/pornography-pandemic-affecting?in=muftiwahaaj/sets/khutbahs
- Khuṭbah about Taqwā, Istighfār and Tawbah: https://soundcloud.com/muftiwahaaj/3-stages-of-nafs-and-3-steps
However, due the issue having several layers, expert help will be the most effective means of treatment. A colleague, Shaykh Muhammad Mamun حفظه الله, has done extensive research on this topic and helped many people overcome this addiction. I have spoken to him and he is willing to help you. Please contact him at email@example.com. You can include this answer in your email to him.
May Allāh allow you to overcome this challenge and bless you with His love.
والله تعالى أعلم وعلمه أتم وبه التوفيق
And Allāh Taʿālā Knows Best
Muftī Mohammed Wahaajuddin bin Salauddin
(May Allāh forgive him and his parents)
صحيح مسلم، كتاب الإيمان، باب بيان الوسوسة في الإيمان وما يقوله من وجدها، #132
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ جَاءَ نَاسٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَسَأَلُوهُ إِنَّا نَجِدُ فِي أَنْفُسِنَا مَا يَتَعَاظَمُ أَحَدُنَا أَنْ يَتَكَلَّمَ بِهِ. قَالَ:وَقَدْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ؟ قَالُوا نَعَمْ. قَالَ: ذَاكَ صَرِيحُ الإِيمَانِ
سنن أبي داود، كتاب الأدب، باب في رد الوسوسة، #5111
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ جَاءَهُ نَاسٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَقَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نَجِدُ فِي أَنْفُسِنَا الشَّىْءَ نُعْظِمُ أَنْ نَتَكَلَّمَ بِهِ أَوِ الْكَلاَمَ بِهِ مَا نُحِبُّ أَنَّ لَنَا وَأَنَّا تَكَلَّمْنَا بِهِ. قَالَ: أَوَقَدْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ. قَالُوا نَعَمْ . قَالَ: ذَاكَ صَرِيحُ الإِيمَانِ.