domestic abuse

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anonymous asked 2 months ago

السلام عليكم
Shaikh I have question regarding the husband forcing himself over his wife, I do know that is completely impermissible to force yourself over your wife is she doesnt want to have relations, but i am having this weird waswasa that it is okay to rape your wife if you cannot hold yourself and fear haram that you will fall into Zina, also Im having this thought that what if Rasool Allah SWS allowed the husband to force himself on her if he fealt that he was going to commit haram. Doesnt the Prophet SWS say “there is no harm and no reciprocating harm” I am very confused on this. i dont know of any incident where rape or abuse was condoned but im getting these weird waswas
Pls clarify these issues جزاك الله خيرا

1 Answers
Mufti Wahaaj Staff answered 2 months ago

بسم الله الرحمٰن الرحيم

الجواب حامداً ومصلياً

As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-raḥmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

You have stated repeatedly in your question that you have a waswasah. You also stated what if Rasūlullāh ﷺ were to state this. The question itself implies that he ﷺ never made the statement. The issue here is Satanic whisperings (wasāwis). These must be overcome.

Wasāwis

As you have stated, you are experiencing wasāwis. Do not worry, and do not give them power over you. They cannot harm you. Allāh ﷻ informs us:

إِنَّمَا النَّجْوَىٰ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ لِيَحْزُنَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَلَيْسَ بِضَارِّهِمْ شَيْئًا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ اللَّهِ ۚ وَعَلَى اللَّهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ

“Whispering is an act of Satan, one that aims at causing grief to the believers; yet without Allāh’s leave no harm can be caused to them. So, in Allāh should the believers put all their trust.” (58:10)

 

After every ṣalāh, recite Sūrah Falaq and Sūrah Nās once along with the following āyah 11 times:

رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ

“My Rabb! I seek your protection from the whispers of the Shayāṭīn.” (23:97)

 

You should also recite this āyah at the times you are experiencing wasāwis.

We also recommend that you read this book by Ḥaḍrat Mawlānā Yūnus Patel (raḥimahullāh) for help with combatting wasāwis: https://yunuspatel.co.za/downloads/Whisperings-of-Shaytaan_2.pdf.

والله تعالى أعلم وعلمه أتم وبه التوفيق
And Allāh Taʿālā Knows Best

Muftī Mohammed Wahaajuddin bin Salauddin
(May Allāh forgive him and his parents)